waste o time place

the weather here has been wonderful since i've been back
and this weekend i decided that i've been wasting too much time keeping myself hidden away in doors.
my brother invited me to meet up with his wife to go visit the Obon Festival in San Jose.
I ended up going with Samar and meeting them down there instead.
She's been needing distractions too and so together we've been attempting to avoid being sedentary with our own thoughts.
(although she's been more successful at keeping busy under much more saddening circumstances).

it was already quite warm and we kind of knew it was going to get warmer.
we got there a little early and found parking easily but since the shows hadn't started yet, we walked around the area instead.
oh, and my brother was late in arriving too.

All the photos are at the moblog








we also submitted ourselves as donors for the national bone marrow donor program thingy.
for ethnic minorities it was free
but it seems they have an overabundance of people, uh.. well of white people. so they had to pay $52 to put themselves up as donors!
filling out the forms was kind of funny because they actually had several different boxes to check for 'white' people.
i know different types of 'white' people exist but i think it's the first time i've ever seen it.


my brother showed up and we got him to sign up as well while the baby just wanted to go everywhere especially the places where she would win toys or else watch taiko drummers.






then we got food n stuff but she didnt get to play with Samar's iPhone.






then baby got tired so they left. we stuck around for part of one more taiko group and then jumped in the car and headed north.

so alice got her first library card the other day

off to london tomorrow

i return to cali on the 22nd. day after her first bday.
oh well.
her other grandparents will be here from japan by then too.

here's a pic

so miss lucifire is performing tonite. (and tomorrow). but it's got to be tonite since tomorrow is sold out
heading out with madmaxtattoo to check out her show and this club antichrist thing. i dunno. i have a headache though.
and i need to nap, but it's good to go out once in a while

but then i just got this from Dad:

Uncle Pak passed away Thursday, April 24, at approximately 8:45 in the
 morning.  He is being cremated & his ashes will be spread off the
 Monterey coast in 40 days.  We are having a viewing of his body today at 2pm
 & a memorial service in Yuki Emo's church tomorrow evening at 6pm.

Love,
Dad

-

I'm such an idiot sometimes. During my last stay in Cali during the SF fetishball weekend, 
i never made the time to walk over (they lived directly across the street pretty much).
we knew it was going to happen soon, 
but i thought (stupidly) that he'd hang on longer than the doctors' expectations.
he did find some energy to laugh when we went to go buy marijuana for him.


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TG Rome is out for me. I am still considering Munich for BoundCon (work)
but then it's back to the states earlier rather than later in June for the services 
after that, down to Los Angeles for the photoworkshop.

with real hair


palo alto, CA. 1972

so my brother's wife, keiko, has her best friend visiting from japan.
they've got 2 lil noisy kids too.
cute as hell.
today they're off to see a baseball game.

my mom just told me that keiko's sister had a lump in her breast a few months ago. they operated, but wasn't able to get all of it out.
most of the pain cleared up, but then started up again.
so at the hospital, they looked inside and discovered that the cancer has spread to her lungs and into her brain.
she's doing chemo.
they give her 6 months to live.
i'm 36.
she's 38.


edit
i'm not really sad. life goes on.
i'm just kinda thinkin how scary cuz she's so young.
i'm sure my sis-in-law has completely different feelings
but i kinda deal with death things a lot differently.
i'm pretty matter of fact about it.